I can only imagine what it must truly be like for mirrors to lie. Me – I don’t really experience this. Every once in awhile a negative neuron in my mind can find something silly about my appearance to whisper doubts about in my ear. But most of the time I can brush those off and even more of the time I’m happy with what I see – not because I’m particularly attractive, but because everything that’s part of me I accept and embrace. Part of it is surely that I recognize that there is more worth to a person than her or his appearance. Part of it is that working out and getting enough sleep keep my brain in a happy enough state to look for the good and not search out the bad.
Yesterday was a meeting of a body image awareness club. I’m a board member so I went and participated in the first discussion. And it’s confirmed for me that the mind is a powerful enemy.
When you know someone who makes you ashamed of your own qualities, or doesn’t care about you, or doesn’t treat you like a person (Kimberly comes to mind, though I’m not sure I told the full story on here) there’s an easy answer. As humans we are bound to absolutely no one and we’re free to make any choices we want. So we remove the hurtful people from our lives and hold on tightly to those who care about us. But it’s not like you can leave your brain behind. That part of us that finds our bad qualities and highlights them is, well, part of us. We are our own torturers, and we can find the chinks in our armor better than anyone else.
I heard too many sad stories yesterday. If you are out there and struggling, I’m very sorry. I don’t know who you may be, but you and your struggles matter to me. I care, because you are a human being and so am I, and if we don’t care about people then what’s the point?
As always, thanks for reading.