I’ve been wanting to do a histories post for awhile now, but I’m honestly just way too lazy to do it one person at a time. In order to get the best of both worlds I decided to do a timeline! I was originally going to do a timeline of relationships and hookups, but I’m not sure I would be able to stay completely honest while including those, so I’m going to keep it at strictly relationships. Well, here we go… Oh and I would just like to note that my definition of a hook up is the same as Georges, making out to sex but not including sex. I’m pretty sure I don’t need to define making out soooooo here we go.
The Early Years
James (5th grade) – The only reason I’m putting James in here is because he was my best friend in elementary school. I’ve spent most of my life with very little friends and I could talk to him. We sat together everyday on the bus and one day he asked me out. I honestly don’t remember anything except sitting on the bus with him. We never kissed and never hung out after school. I mean, we were only in 5th grade! Looking back on it now it was really stupid, but I also remember being in 5th grade and kids in my school dating and it seemed so normal back then. I guess in reality it is normal. The thing is though even in 5th grade this kid was a little player. While “dating” me he asked out the most popular girl in the school, Claire. She said no and I did not dump him. I’m not really sure why, but hey I was in 5th grade. We did ended up breaking up when the school year ended. We stayed pretty good friends of the summer though, and he would always tell me about the different girls he was trying to go after. I was clueless back then, but looking back at it now he was such an asshole and a little shit.
Matt (summer before 8th grade) – Matt and I never dated, but what happened between us kind of affected me for awhile. I met Matt at an open water swim meet that I did every year. We were both doing the 5 mile swim which consisted of 3 miles, 1.5 miles, and half a mile. We got about half an hour in between each race. Most of that time we spent together eating and the rest of it was either us getting reading or receiving our medals. We were both the youngest in our age category, he was 17 if I remember correctly, and we both won our races in our age groups. After that meet, we texted non stop and were planning on going to a fair together. It was honestly great because he was the first guy that had shown interest in me since 5th grade. It was all going great until one day he randomly stopped texting me. I went psycho and sent him a ton of Facebook messages that were all super mean and bitchy. He never responded to them. I haven’t talked to him since.
Tommy (summer before 8th grade) – I would like to note that I was insane for this one. This should not have happened and I would like to note that we never did anything. The story to how I met Tommy is kind of ironic considering we met because of my former swim coach. We were driving down the east coast to Florida with him, his wife, and me. He coached Tommy when he was a swimmer and were good friends with his parents. So we went to their house for dinner and that’s how Tommy and I met. I thought he was really hot, and the night ended with nothing happening. At dinner he was impressed with my knowledge of Slipknot. The next night my coach decided that the three of us should go out to dinner with only Tommy. Dinner was fine, except 8th grade me was super excited because Tommy sat next to me. According to him, I later found out that he had a boner most of the time. In hindsight this is when I should have stopped talking to him. We kept talking and eventually “dated.” We never saw each other again, but we had planned on it. We texted a lot and sent each other quite a bit of dirty pictures. This escalated eventually to Skyping. I ended up breaking up with him after I finally got some sense into my head and realized how wrong all of it was. It was disgusting and gross and so was he, and so was I.
Nick (Beginning of 8th grade) – I would like to say that at this point I was at a reasonable dating age. Sort of. Kids in my school were giving blowjobs and having sex already, and considering I lost my virginity a year later it can’t be too bad. Okay so I met Nick through my swim team. He was 18 I wanna say. Basically everything that happened with him was NOT okay. Not in the slightest. We “dated” and planned to meet up a local park, but never did. We made out one day before swim practice and that was the extent of our “relationship.” He was gross. Like yeah, I was fine with him but he was so gross. I can’t even think of a real reason why I dated him, but I think I just liked the idea of being with someone older. So the sexting ended when he grabbed my ass one day while we were swimming (we swam in the same lane). I was furious and oddly felt violated. Feeling violated really surprised me because up until this point I had no self respect. Things took a turn for the worse or better when I found out that he had been talking to other girls on the swim team the same way he was talking to me. The group of 4 of us went to the coach and Nick ended up being kicked off of the swim team. Oh I should probably add that Nick was my first kiss… Whoooo (that was sarcasm)
Steve (middle of 8th grade) – My relationship with Steve was my first real relationship. Yay for finally being normal! I was in 8th grade and Steve was a Sophomore at the local high school. We met because the high school and middle school band occasionally did events together. We dated a day short of 2 months and it was actually fun. We hung out on most weekends and actually went on some dates. We shared our first kiss at the movie theater in a mall. I’m not really what there is to say about Steve because things with him were actually normal. He was a really good boyfriend. We hooked up a lot and it was nothing special. He wanted to have sex and I said yes, except he didn’t have a condom so we didn’t. I ended up breaking up with him for some stupid reason. There was no real reason, I just used a stupid excuse. In reality I had lost interest in him. I got kind of sick of him because he really was a know it all, and I can’t stand those kinds of people.
Brandon (end of 8th grade/summer) – Meh. That’s really all I have to say about him. We went to 8th grade semi-formal together and then he asked me out. We hung out once during the summer and it was only for half an hour. I ended up breaking up with him because he was boring and because I was leaving for my yearly trip to Florida, and after I got back from Florida I was going to have about a week before I left for the Academy. So we both agreed it was for the best that we break up. We never talked again.
Clark (The Academy: FR) – When I got to the Academy I said that I wouldn’t date anyone for at least a month. Well, that completely flew out the window. I met Clark in the freshman hang out area during the very first few days of school. He was playing water polo for his fall sport and I was managing water polo, and I was really glad to be making a friend that had things in common with me. I found out on the first day that he was really a swimmer, and a fast one. I always wanted to date a swimmer. A day or two after we first met we started dating. We would make out, but it never went further than that. I broke up with him after he asked me to give him a blowjob. That wasn’t the reason why I broke up with him, but that was when I ended it.
Blaze (The Academy: FR) – I met Blaze through water polo because he was the captain of the team. Probably a week after I ended things with Clark I messaged Blaze on facebook. I wasn’t expecting anything out of it, except hopefully a conversation. I have to admit I did think that he was really hot so maybe my intentions weren’t that pure. We talked that night until my internet went out and he was really nice. I went to bed with the thought that he might have been flirting with me, but I pushed the idea out of my head. We talked about our families a little bit, and he, jokingly, said that I should come chill with him in Singapore (where he lives). I knew the internet was going to go out soon, so I took a risk and asked him to sit with me on the bus to the water polo game the next day. He said yes, so I went to bed extremely excited for the following day. The entire team met for breakfast and he made eggs for a few of us because he likes cooking for people. After breakfast a few of us went on a walk and I found out that he had recently broken up with his girlfriend. Basically at this point everything in my head is screaming wooohoooo yaaaaaay. We sat together on the bus and talked the entire time. It was awesome and I swear that he was flirting with me. I don’t know how we got on the topic but at one point he said something along the lines of, “I like it when girls are honest about their feelings and tell a guy when they like him.” I was shocked and confused. I had no idea if that was a hint or not. I just agreed with what he said and then changed the subject. He sat with me on the way back from the game and we kept talking. Some time when we were close to the Academy I told him that I liked him. I was too much of a chicken to say it straight out so I went with the whole, someone on this bus likes you thing. We hung out that night and decided to date after we made out, if I remember correctly. After that night we were pretty much inseparable. Most of the free time that we had we spent together and both of us loved it. I lost my virginity to Blaze, and it was a good decision. We had sex kind of soon, but I don’t regret it at all. Blaze is the one person who I can trust with anything and there is no one who I would rather have lost it to. We kept spending a lot of time together and I started thinking that we would be able to stay together after he graduated from the Academy. Unfortunately, I ended up breaking up with him very dramatically after some things with his ex came up.
Frank (The Academy: FR) – I guess you could say that Frank was my rebound after Blaze. Contrary to all sorts of rumors that went around the Academy Frank and I did not have sex. He asked me out, I said no, we made out, and then I said give me a week to think about it, and then I said no. That was all.
*Cue lots of hooking up with Blaze, and me being a bitch to him.*
Bart (The Academy: FR) – I dated Bart for a month during the winter and it was pretty uneventful. We hooked up once. He was really busy with school work, which I understood. I ended up breaking up with him.
George (The Academy: FR) – I’m going to put George here instead of when we actually dated for a short time because even though I was with Bart, I had feelings for George. I spent most of my time with George and while we never kissed he was more of a boyfriend to me than Bart was. He was my best friend, and then I was a bitch to him and really mean, and god I was just awful. No one should be treated the way that I treated George.
Blaze (The Academy:FR-SP) – I got back with Blaze basically the day after I broke up with Bart. We picked up where we left off and spent all of our time together. He ended up breaking up with me and then we got back together a few days later. We stayed together for the rest of the school year and for all of the summer. At this point I could say that I was in love with him. I still am. He visited me for two weeks during the summer and they were two of the best weeks of my life. Things kept going well into the school year, and visited about once a month. One Saturday I met him in NYC and it was easily one of the best days of my life. Blaze is someone that I can be completely me around. He’s the one person that I can be in a group of people with and I won’t feel left out. We’ve been on and off during the school year, because I want to be with him but long distance relationships are really hard. Especially when the person you love is on the other side of the world in the Army. I really hope that things with Blaze work out because I can’t imagine my life without him. There was only one time when we broke up this year that we didn’t get back together in less than 12 hours, and even then we still talked every day. He is my best friend, and although we fight a lot, I love Blaze. I am the luckiest person on the planet to have him in my life. I don’t know if we’re going to stay together forever, but right now he makes me feel safe. I know that if someone can make me feel safe from the other side of the world, then they’re worth holding onto and fighting for.
So I guess that’s it for my histories timeline. I would just like to note that during my 8th grade year and summer before, I had no self respect what so ever. Sexual things and my body didn’t mean anything to me. It was just something else to do so I didn’t get bored. THAT IS NO LONGER HOW I SEE THINGS. Blaze showed me that sex should be special and that I shouldn’t let people take advantage of me. He taught me that I’m worth something, and for the first time in my life he made me feel loved.
Until Next Time,
Jane H. Blood